When your paradigm shifts it can certainly make your head spin. I’m in the middle of a learning season and I thought I’d share a few thoughts with all of you.
Life is too short to spend time on things that do not matter to my destiny.
The coffee that was spilled, being late for work, the bill you forgot to pay: These things can be stressors in life. They can certainly cause an undue amount of frustration and anxiety. But in the grand scheme of things, when you add up the totality of your living, do they REALLY matter? I’m determined to take charge of my emotions and focus my living on the important aspects: God, family, friends, and health.
Writing can be difficult.
Anyone who’s ever attempted to write a poem, essay, love letter or dissertation can cosign on this. I’m working on a new manuscript (click here or here for my books). And for the past month I’ve been stuck in the quicksand of chapter 2 in my next novel. It’s been heart wrenching to develop a particular character and give life to his story. There have been many days that not one word or phrase came to me. And even when the words did come, they wouldn’t flow very quickly. So, I took this particular chapter word by word, sentence by sentence, paragraph by paragraph. And today, I came to the end. Yes! I typed the last word, to the last sentence, to the last paragraph of chapter two. So, writing can be difficult, but if I push through the frustration and take it word by word, I’ll eventually create an amazing piece.
I’m not always right.
Yes, I think Denzel Washington is the best thing since sliced bread. But I realize that not everyone agrees with me (even thought they are idiots). This was helpful information to me this week when I had a conversation with someone about ways to deal with the death of a loved one. I accept the fact that everyone grieves in their own way and I should have respect for the process that people need to go through in order to maintain their mental health. Moreover, I realize that I need to express myself in an honest and respectful way instead of holding my thoughts in, creating anxiety or anger.
There are people who don’t like me. And there’s nothing I can do about it.
I want everybody to like me, because I like everybody (until you do something that makes me want to punch you in the face). But there is this person who, since the day we met, has been incredibly rude and mentally abusive…..and day by day it’s getting worse. I have racked my brain trying to figure out what I’ve said or done to this woman and I’ve come up with nothing. Mr. Incredible told me something that set me completely free: “Krystal, there are people that look you right in the face, laugh with you every day yet don’t like you. At least you know where this lady stands.” Thank you, Mr. Incredible for dropping that gem in my spirit.
These few weeks has been ones of reflection. I’m certainly growing and learning how to navigate life in a purposeful manner. Hopefully, I’ll be able to utilize what I’ve learned and move closer to living a more peaceful life.